So here I just want to take a few minutes to wrap this section of the course up and it's just the introduction
sanction were pretty much just getting started.
But here's the thing.
All right.
Courtroom people effectively in life isn't just a process that we can follow it's not like there's just
a couple of steps or a few techniques we can take.
We really want to grasp and develop a good understanding of our own psyche right and how it is that
we arrive at the assumptions and understandings that we do in life.
I want to leave you with this one major idea especially in section one and this is that we respond more
to our perception of reality than what we do towards reality itself.
So we're talking about coaching people in life here.
All right.
And if we were to relate life to being kind of like a mountain.
All right we're all kind of climbing out.
We were all on our journey in life.
Could you imagine am good and tackling climbing a mountain like this with a friend.
So you start climbing on one side of the mountain your friend starts climbing up the other side of the
mountain and then you have these little transistor radios and you're radio across to your friend and
you say to him or her.
So tell me jimbo What do you see over there right now.
What's step was what you're looking at directly in front of you is some woodlands and you're looking
at some trees perhaps a little rolling stream things like that but then your friend that other side
of the mountain they're looking at a sheer rock face.
So they are telling you all about the nooks and crannies and the rock face and all the shrubbery that
is growing over the rocks.
Then you say to them No I can't see that.
That's not what I see.
I'm looking all these trees and a little stream and all this kind of stuff.
You're wrong jimbo you're wrong because I can see what you see.
Well to be honest with you joking aside this is how many people relate to each other in life right.
Because we can see things from other people's perspectives.
We tell them that they're wrong.
We dismiss people we reject people and people end up getting heart and is when people get hurt in life
they end up holding back.
And as this holding back really prevents people from fulfilling their fullest potential really giving
voice to what's in them and all ultimately just getting out there and being true to who they are right.
No one likes being rejected in life and what I'm going to boldly suggest at this stage of a course is
that the greatest fear that most people have in life is failing or being rejected and if you think about
it if we are rejected by people this is because we have failed and in being an effective human being
so it's important that us coaches and our goal is not to have an opinion about what other people may
or may not be seeing.
It's about understanding the lens through which other people are looking at their life's their events
and their circumstances the relationships their finances their career their education their goals their
future vision and so on so forth.
Because how people perceive all of these things ultimately going to determine how ready and willing
they are to get out there and start taking some action steps.
So understanding this becomes way way way way way before setting and defining any goals or action steps
that are to ultimately be taken.
So I could go through all of this again but I'm pretty certain you're going to really halve this by
now.
We often confuse our perception of reality with reality itself and what's true for us is certainly true
for our clients.
Perception is the lens through which we view our reality.
And here's the thing.
Our reality is always going to be real and true for us.
Other people's reality is going to be real and true for them.
It's only when we start comparing notes that we start to see the bigger picture and this is why we all
need someone to guide us on some level and in life no person is ever going to reach their optimum effectiveness
by just going it alone and and being a one man band or a one woman band.
Our thoughts and feelings seem real to us.
So we conclude that they must be true and this is why some people will define themselves by their feelings.
This is why the world of psychiatry and psychology is is still still exists.
All right psychologists and various therapists have diaries full of waiting lists of people waiting
to be seen and fixed.
People define themselves by how they feel and whilst emotions are real things.
All right I'm going to suggest the greatest problem that we ever have in life is just simply how we
feel sometimes we mentioned this right back at the start of the second of the course when people feel
happy when they feel content when they feel fulfilled when they feel like they are advancing and moving
forward and making progress.
They don't have a problem.
But when people feel confused bewildered a little bit stressed a little bit fearful anxious angry or
vision lists are purpose purposeless or any of these things.
That's when people have problems.
All right we've got to understand the facts and the truth of the matter is people aren't told those
things is just how they feel.
All right.
So where we can lead people into greater depths of insight into what's actually true for them.
Then we can lead people into a greater degree of personal liberation and freedom to pursue those things
they actually want to pursue in life.
How we view things is one of six point seven billion different ways of looking at things and looking
at life.
All right if we want to become wise in life we want to learn how to look at life through other people's
perspective because it's then and only then that we become effective actually understanding people.
All right it's not that we need to understand all people but we need to understand the process that
we need to go through to understand people.
If you're with me so I'm going to share with you a whole lot of ideas and processes and through the
next couple of sections that are really going to help you to do it as well.
If we need to change how we feel about something anything some one a relationship a circumstance a situation
if we are feeling angry towards someone right now.
If we are feeling scared about something right now if we are feeling sad about something or someone
I am or a relationship that we have right now all we ever simply need to do is look at the event look
at the relationship look at the situation or the circumstance from a perspective that simply differs
from our own right sometimes the greatest breakthrough sessions that I've ever delivered.
Just simply having a conversation of where I lead a person through the process of looking at their current
life their current circumstances from an alternative perspective All right sometimes coaching people
on life doesn't have to be any more complex than this.
But listen my friends this is us just getting started.
Hope you're enjoying the journey so far and it is a bit of a journey over the next couple of sections
we're going to start hiking up towards the peak.
All right understanding the primary the main reasons why people don't pursue the things you want to
pursue in life why people never ever reach that place in life where they want to get.
If we understand the core reasons why people don't do the things they do in life and we're going to
pretty much have the answers that people are looking for and we're going to serve them as being some
pretty effective coaches.
So hope you found this section interesting and I look forward to seeing you again in the next.